Connect with your partner in these highly sexy yet non-sexual ways.
Sex in a relationship is definitely important. And yes, you can just take 20 minutes out of a day for sex with your partner. But is that really enough to keep sexual attraction and intimate connection thriving in your relationship? I say “no.” Love is way more fun (and sexier) when you connect with your significant other in these highly sexy yet non-sexual ways:
1. Send them non-sexual photos of you.
Not every photo you send to your partner requires flashing your naked body. Instead, text some great pics to your SO right after a fresh haircut or color or while smiling during your day. No need to be overtly sexy, just charming. Pleasantly surprising them with a photo of the fine person they love puts a smile on their face. My fiancé uploads my new hairstyle pics to his main screen, and I always get a “wow” back from him. Part of me finds it embarrassing, but I still love it.
2. Go on a vacation together.
It doesn’t matter if it’s only for a day or a full week, just go away with your partner and plan something you’d both love to do. The key is planning this activity together—don’t do it alone. Try activities that you both enjoy and increase your connection by adding some relaxation time together. Make sure that you use this time for positive, loving, fun talks. It’s not the time to deal with kids’ issues, financial situations, or other draining topics. If you must, agree to set aside a time to discuss heavier matters, do so when your minds are clear and calm.
3. Sprinkle their day with compliments.
We all love compliments and yet we often don’t bother to give them out to our loved one. Are we too busy or just forgetful? Could we be harboring some resentment, pain, or anger within ourselves? You may have some work to do in this area, but the effort is well worth it in creating a stronger relationship. Catch your partner doing something right—and tell him or her about it.
4. Get physical but not sexual.
Touch creates more trust, intimacy, and offers several other benefits. It makes us feel good and soothes us into a greater connection. Most people enjoy being touched in certain ways that are unique to them. And not every act of physical affection has to turn into a make-out session. Just do what feels right and watch the advantages come to life.
5. Be playful and spontaneous.
Come on ladies—it’s time to jump it up a notch. It’s so easy (and boring) to do what you always do. So get moving and throw that big sloppy kiss on your partner when you’re cleaning the garage. Slap that butt when they’re washing the car. Be a bit silly. Think of ways to lighten up and make them laugh. More play equals more fun.
6. Really bond with their family.
It’s important to form realistic bonds with your significant other’s family, if that’s important to them. Although it’s tricky, you need to know when to zip it and when to say what comes to mind when you’re around their family. Having new family members is fun and rewarding and shows your partner that you care about their world. Be as kind and understanding as you can, yet be supportive to them.
7. Open your heart to their little ones.
There could be nothing more important to a parent than their child. As a significant other, you need to know and accept this fact. If your partner has kids from a prior relationship, open your heart to those children without overstepping your boundaries. Take the child’s lead and move slowly as you talk with them and get to know them better. Earning trust is valuable. Ask a few questions and know when it’s time to back off. Grow the relationship slowly. Don’t expect your partner’s kids to fall in love with you right away, if ever. Remember, your significant other will love you more when you show care and consideration for their children.
8. Make showing affection a daily habit.
It’s so easy to just walk past each other when walking through the door. Don’t do that. Create healthy relationships habits that stick. Kiss all day long, especially when you wake up, before bed, and upon seeing each other after time apart. Find affectionate gestures that they love and do them for them. In return, let them know the simple gestures they can do to make your day. Increasing sensuality in your relationship outside of the bedroom is a two-way street. Couples often forget that everyday experiences that make each other happy are just as important as (if not more important) than that 20-minute romp in the sack.
Originally written by Lori Peters, YourTango